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An oshibori is meant for the hands, not the face, and not for the table. This one rule covers almost everything related to etiquette. The rest are subtleties that are taken for granted in Japan and are hardly known outside of it.
What it is intended for
The cloth is handed out before the meal and serves to clean the hands. In Japan, many dishes are eaten with the fingers or chopsticks without getting up. Oshibori replaces the trip to the sink.
This dictates the timing: it comes before the meal, not after. Using a cloth after the meal is a Western custom and unusual in Japan.
What it is not intended for
- The face. Men do it occasionally in Japan, but it is considered impolite and inappropriate in upscale homes.
- The neck and throat. Far too much, unless you're in a sauna and not a restaurant.
- The table. Wiping up spilled wine with an oshibori is the mistake that bothers staff the most. There are other cloths for that.
- The cutlery. Wiping chopsticks or glasses with them implies that the house has set the table improperly.
After use
The cloth is folded loosely and placed back on the surface where it came from, or at the edge of the place setting. Not on the plate, not on the chair, and not rolled up again as if it were unused.
In many homes, the oshibori (bread basket) is left out during meals and reused occasionally. This is fine as long as it stays in its designated place.
What being rich means
Oshibori is a gesture of hospitality and in Japan part of what is called Omotenashi: an unbidden and unpaid favor.
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That's why it's handed to you, not placed on the table. And that's why the temperature is so important: a lukewarm towel seems careless, a too-hot one intrusive. How to achieve both is explained in the article. Make your own oshibori.
Hot or cold
Warm towels are the norm and are served year-round. In the height of summer, cold towels are common because they refresh rather than warm. Both are correct; it depends on the season and the house.
The article explains when each option is appropriate. warm or cold cloth.
For businesses outside Japan
Guests are usually unaware of the rules, and pointing them out would be a bigger mistake. If someone wants to wipe their face, they should. Etiquette is a guide for those who want to know it, not a test.
What a business can control, however, is quality: clean fabric, correct temperature, served rather than simply placed on the table. This is the aspect the guest notices. The necessary equipment for this is under CalmConcept, for example the Warm towel dispenser ASP-SJJ-120A, and what an oshibori actually is, in the article What is an oshibori?.
Where the custom comes from
The practice of offering moist towelettes in Japan dates back to the Edo period, when travelers in inns received a moistened cloth for their hands and face. The name itself comes from the verb for "to wring out," and that is precisely how the preparation is still described today.
It spread from inns to restaurants and from there to airplanes, trains and hotels. Today it is so commonplace in Japan that its absence is noticed, not its presence.
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